Each month, I share a net worth update for the Brewing FIRE household. This brief summary of our financial standing serves as a progress report on our journey to financial independence.
In addition to giving a snapshot of our net worth, I will take a brief look at our spending, saving, and investing activity for the month.
July 2021 Net Worth

July
When we initially moved in Virginia in December, Mrs. BF took a job that we knew would be temporary. It paid well, but didn’t qualify for Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF), and so she was only planning to stay there until she found another position with a ‘not-for-profit’ hospital (what a joke, but I digress).
There was one other tradeoff of this job: she’d only work 3 days a week on average, but this would include evenings, every other weekend, and holidays. What this really meant: I’d be the sole caretaker 50% of the time, including weekends.
I’m not highlighting this to complain about taking care of my kids, or to pat myself on the back. I truly enjoyed all of the “Dada Weekends” and it’s clear that I now have a tighter bond with them than the days when Mama was around at all times. What I want to highlight is how damn difficult it is to manage two small children while also dealing with all of life’s normal challenges. I’ve gained an immense respect for anyone who has had to do this, often not by choice.
Some observations from this period:

- Cooking dinner with a one-year-old is impossible. And that eerie quiet when you realize he isn’t pulling at your leg anymore is terrifying.
- Double-meltdowns are inevitable, frequent, and self-perpetuating.
- The daily 30 minutes of TV is a god-send.
- Eating outside is a must. This way you can hose the place down after dinner.
- Getting through dinner/bath/books/bed without any profanity is unlikely.
- If all else fails, take them for a walk. If that fails too, find cookies.
All kidding/complaining aside, the past 7+ months was a good experience. I have a much greater appreciation for everyone who devotes themselves to the welfare of children. And especially my wife, who makes things much easier when she’s around.
It’s also useful to know that, if the shit hit the fan, I could handle the kids for a while by myself. After our second was born, I was never truly tested to see if I could manage both of them plus everything else for an extended period of time. At least I know I’m capable.
Now that Mrs. BF has started her new position, with an 8-5 routine, we’re mostly back to normal. Our daughter seems to be happier knowing that Mama will be home for dinner every night. Lord knows I am, too.
CT Trip
In other news, we made another visit to Connecticut in July to catch up with friends and family. Mrs. BF had a few weeks between jobs, so we spent about 10 days in our former stomping grounds.
I’m not sure when we’ll get back there again, so it was good to see everyone. We were also able to visit many more people than we did in April, considering most of our friends were vaccinated this time around. Some of my extended family came in from CA, MA, and OH as well, so it was really nice to see everyone for the first time since 2019.
Month-Over-Month Comparison

We eked out a new high this month, as the markets mostly remained even during July. On a side note, I must admit that I’m less interested in our actual net worth numbers these days, considering we’ve reached a few milestones far earlier than I originally expected. I’ll keep tracking our net worth for the time being, but I’m considering whether we should discontinue at some point.
Spending and Not Spending
Category | Spending | Comment |
Rent | $1,850 | |
Utilities | $412 | electricity/water |
Student Loan | $0 | |
Transportation | $343 | More car taxes |
Childcare | $2,896 | |
Medical | $39 | |
Groceries | $454 | |
Restaurants | $128 | |
Shopping / Misc. | $445 | bike tune-up |
Clothing | $101 | |
Entertainment | $117 | Fun in CT |
Discretionary | $118 | |
Subscriptions | $45 | |
Travel | $743 | CT Trip + Sep. Airbnb |
Other | $465 | Home inspection |
Donation | $500 | Givewell.org |
Total | $8,256 | minus the donation |
I’m not sure how many months in a row I can say “$8,000 is a big number” before I just admit that this is how much we spend these days. As previously mentioned, rent plus childcare is roughly $5,000 per month, so I guess we’re starting from a pretty high floor.

Travel: our July CT trip only cost us about $400. We stayed with my family and brought the dog with us, so no lodging costs. The only real expenses were gas, food, and some happy hours/entertainment-related expenses with friends. We also booked an Airbnb for September, which makes up the rest of the cost.
Car Taxes: we paid the last of our CT car taxes, and now are officially released from our previous residence.
Misc: I paid $220 to have my bike tuned up, which I’ve neglected to do for years. I really should teach myself how to do everything, but I don’t know if it’s worth the effort to learn.
Home Inspection: if you actually pay attention to each line item of our expenses, this one probably piqued your interest. I’ll save the story for another post, but it looks like we managed to find a great house at a reasonable price during this shitshow of a housing market. More details to follow.
Income and Investing
In July, we had an income gap while Mrs. BF transitioned to her new job. She did get paid out for her excess PTO, however, which made up partially for the shortfall. We also got our first $600 paycheck/tax credit from the government (Biden Bucks?) to help supplement the cost of raising two eventual taxpayers. It only covers ~20% of our childcare costs, but that’s better than nothing!
As I’ve being saying every month, we’re being conservative with our cash reserves now as we plan to buy a house soon. I’m still auto-contributing $1,000 per month to Wealthfront as part of our investment strategy, and throwing some money into the kids’ 529 plans, but the rest will sit in our checking account for now.
Here’s what our current breakdown of investments looks like.

We’ll probably want to have a higher percentage of our assets in Roth/taxable investments by the time we retire, but that’s another post for another day.
That’s it for July. Any tips for wrangling two babies at once? Am I whining too much about childcare? Do you do your own bike maintenance? Let me know in the comments.
oh, i used to work similar long and odd hours to what your wife was doing. some of my coworkers at the time were raising little kids and i don’t know how they did it. as far as bike maintenance i haven’t needed any because i never ride the bike i bought new 15 years ago. i did try to learn to true a wheel many years ago and it didn’t work out too well for me. sounds like the plan is really coming together with the new setup.
When my wife was in the Emergency Department she had a lot of shifts that got off around 1 AM. But that was pre-kids, so it just meant I got to go party with the boys on those nights. A lot different than double-kid duty! I never thought of that, if I just stop riding the bike, I’ll never need to maintain it. Yes, the plan is coming together. I’m planning on writing about it, but I’m reluctant to do that until we’ve officially signed the paperwork. Hopefully soon.
Nice to know you are a proven, tested solo-caretaker of two kiddos. Very impressive. I’d likely implode shortly after a dual meltdown! I did notice the home inspection line item! Can’t wait to hear the details on that in next month’s update. Enjoy!
The dual meltdown, also known as “screaming in stereo.” Yes, we’re moving closer to the finish line. Hopefully I’ll have some good news to report shortly. Just practicing patience for now!
It is amazing how much attention each kid demands–and this is speaking from limited experience around other people’s kids! And as you said, as much as you might want some quiet, the worst thing is when you DON’T hear from them for a period of time. Kudos to you!
It’s a constant struggle, but they’re also so much fun, so it’s a weird tradeoff. It’s like those fireball candies we used to eat as kids; seriously painful, but we ate them anyway!